[REPOST] SYSK -Very helpful for Newbies. (written by NOJ)

Normally posted by embies, but they're not here just now.
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Nation of Jackie writes:

Hello and welcome to ASD!
This aint the FAQ. Its the SYSK
( Stuff You Should Know )

SPOILERS:

A.  Spoilers are a space between the beginning of your post
and the main text of your post. Spoilers are used for graphic
descriptions of
abuse or sexual stuff, cursing, religious references, basically
anything that would be "triggering"  to read. Spoilering is important
because sometimes ppl cant handle reading certain things, if you put
in a spoiler, you give them time decide if they can handle reading
about your topic, and to prepare themselves.

Spoilers are a big deal.

The way you do it is:
You put a brief note saying why you spoiler and then you add at
least 10 but better yet 15 lines of space. Heres an example :

Spoilered for a demonstration.
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
10
11
12
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14
15
See, if you scroll all the way back up to number one, then
you cant see this sentence from there.
A spoiler ensures others safety and your freedom, you can
talk freely under a spoiler. You can use all the triggering language
and images you feel like under a spoiler. * ( see feetnotes, there is
a catch )
Be very very careful *not* to take off a spoiler unless you
are snipping out the spoilerable material!

SPLATTING:

It is recommended that unless you are spoilering you use
SPLATS. A Splat is when you take out all or some of the vowels from
upsetting words. It is recommended that unless you are spoilering you
use SPLATS.One reason is that its easier for people who get scared by
cursewords to read splats. Littles, especially, have an easier time
with splats. Some littles cant even read splatted things.
Another thing about splats is that it is possible for people
to search with a "search engine" for places or posts where certain
key words are  common. If that person chose the Keywords  r*pe and
s*x, they wont find *my* post cause it is splatted. I think it is a
good thing if they don't find my post, or asd. So I splat some things,
and I really recommend you do too.

TRIGGERS:

Many, Many, of the people who make up the population of asdis
are people who have been *heavily* abused as children, as well as far
into adulthood.

When a person is "triggered" they are reminded so forcefully
of their past abusers that in some cases they end up re-experiencing
a piece of a past trauma, or feeling the way they felt when they were
*being* traumatised.

You do not want to do this to people.

So you try to avoid setting off "known" or common triggers in
public postings on asd. One of the ways you do this is by getting a
sense of where triggers usually are, and being careful to not use
triggering language.

However, supposing ( and this will happen ) that what you
have to talk about cannot reasonably be considered non-triggering, nor
can it be expressed without triggering language, you spoiler for it,
describe nongraphically the types of triggers, and you let yourself
loose under the spoiler.

A spoiler ensures others safety and your freedom, you can
talk freely under a spoiler. You can use all the triggering language
and images you feel like under a spoiler. * ( see feetnotes, there is
a catch )

KNOWN TRIGGERS:

Cursing: people are frequently cursed at while they are being abused
and most curses are sexual or religious so right there its a set of
triggers.

Religious acts/phrases/d*eties: Many people here were assaulted in
the name of chr*stianity or s*tanism or whatever other r*ligions you
can think of. You want to be very careful. While you might know of no
phrase so innocous and good as "bl*ss you" another person might have
experienced that phrase in a context where it meant they were about
to be beaten, or worse. Be very sensitive, okay?

Sex: well, a lotta folks here been r*ped and m*lested. Be aware of
that. Jokes about s*x with children are right out. Not funny, don't
try. G*nitals, slang terms, whatever, be careful.

Race: This rarely comes up, but racial slurs are not okay, and if
you've got a problem with people of other colors or religions, don't
bring it here. If you do, spoiler and then duck.

Holidays: This is tricky. Lets just say certain very unfreindly
people like to use certain holidays as occasions to hurt others. So,
during the various holiday seasons, be aware that some folks don't
have happy memories of Xmas, or their birthdays. As in dont send the
group a big greeting card on a holiday, at least not without a
spoiler, or it will have an opposite effect to the one you intend.

STANDARD NETIQUETTE:

Another thing you should know is that if you write in ALL
CAPS ppl will take that as you shouting. If you want to _emphasise_
what you are about to ~say~ there are a numbers of *ways* to do it
that dont involve CAPS:)

:) <-------This is a sideways smile----------> this heres a
frown :(

Those kind of pictures are helpful because on the internet
noone can hear you smile:)
The little pictures are called "smileys" and "emoticons".

If you quote somebody its important to "attribute" that
quote. Some puters do it automatically, some dont. If you are reading
a post and there are little arrow thingys like :

>>this
>
then dont take em off, they tell ppl whos talking.

A well attributed post might look like this:

Jojo the Dogface Boy @ix.netbomb.com wrote:
> Gee I'd like a box of those biscuits shaped like mailmen..
Mailman Jim @yourpostoffice.com wrote

> > Man thats cold, why cant you eat bone shaped biscuits like everybody else?

And then as they went along the little arrows would indicate
whos who

> woof woof bow wow grrr
>> Ratatatatatatat  ( can of mace going hissss )

NET AND ASDIS SLANG:

The conversation above would count as a *flame*, cause they
are attacking each other, and could well escalate into a *flamewar*.
Flames are not a good idea, and should be avoided. Try and
work things out with people, or express your own feelings,  instead
of telling ppl that they are big dodoes. If you cant manage that, at
least spoiler.

Flamewars are even worse.

*Crossposts* are when send your post to more than one
newsgroup.
Because of asdis's various customs and conventions, its
recommended that you do not crosspost, as replies from people in
other newsgroups may be unspoilered, unsplatted, and generally
insensitive. If you want to send the same post to different
newsgroups, use cut'n'paste to make several different copies rather
than crossposting.

*Spam* is when you post the same thing to many newsgroups.
They don't like it. A good rule of thumb is that if you are
crossposting something to more than five newsgroups, thats *spam*.

some common abbreviations:

IMO is In My Opinion
IMHO is In My Humble Opinion
FWIW is For What Its Worth
OTOH is On The Other Hand
ROTFL is Rolling On The Floor Laughing
Bc is Because
STBA is Sullen Teenage B*tch Alter ( a pride term for
some )
Ppl are people.
AFAIK is As Far As I Know
TIA is Thanks In Advance
LOL is Laughing Out Loud
Perp is short for "perpetrator" or abuser.
A Little is a child alter
An Alter is short for Alternate and is another you
You dont have to use the word Alter, you can invent
your own term or say Parts or Peices or whatever slang is in vogue:)
Ppl are people.
AFAIK is As Far As I Know
TIA is Thanks In Advance
LOL is Laughing Out Loud

info for those who can "surf the web":

Theres this thing they call a FAQ and its huge and
informative and you can get it offa the web. Try using the  or alta
vista search engines to look for the alt.support.dissociation FAQ. It
comes in several parts and answers all those technical  questions
about what label gets pasted on who. But very few people care about
the labels or your exact pinpoint location in the "dissociative
continuum" .

DejaNews is an amazing search engine, it is on the web, it
searches for posts for you, you enter certain words on a form, hit
enter, and it supplies you with posts that contain those words.

The web address for dejanews is
http://dejanews.com/


[My update: long since swallowed by google: http://groups.google.com/]

Alta Vista is a web search engine, you enter words onto a
form and hit enter, and it supplies you with the addresses of Web
Pages with those words.

The web address for Alta Vista is
http://altavista.digital.com

If I knew *anything* about anon ( anonymous mail ) stuff I'd tell
you.If I knew how you could get on IRC ( thats chatroom stuff ) I'd
prolly tell you that *too*, but I dont. The great pink bunnies  also
known as astri  reposts an anon instruction thingy every once in a
while, try getting that offa dejanews too, using the words anon
instructions and astri.

Okay now that you are well and truly frightened, relax.
Everybody here was a newbie once. Mistakes are understandable and
understood.

You can post as much as you want, theres no height
requirement, you can definitely post "even if Im not multiple" cos
this group is for all dissociatives and their supporters.

Happy Happy Joy Joy!

Nation of Jackie

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*****
P.S. Its better to post questions to the ng stead of me, cause Im
unreliable and Not In Charge;)

* Feetnotes: I did say that you can pretty much say anything you like
under a spoiler. The catch is that if you deliberately and viciously
attack another person on this ng....its not okay.

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