Re: A small action

correction:

i meant to say:  'i quickly realized THERE are many charlatans out
there who would only be too glad to take money from a grieving person,
so i set rules for that too.'   not: 'THEY are'.    sorry.

On Sep 20, 10:49 am, donna <donnac...@hotmail.com> wrote:
> dear wondering,
>
> i also began spending money after my daughter, savannah, died.  for
> me, and maybe you too, it felt like i was taking some action ...
> instead being engulfed in
> a pit of black misery.  i was doing something; don't know if that
> makes sense.
>
> i set myself some rules.  budgeted into my monthly expenses the amount
> i would spend on candles and fresh flowers for her grave.  it is very,
> very important to me and that amount is fixed just like my mortgage
> payment.
>
> this might sound trivial but i had to limit the money that i spent on
> my garden.  i've become a social recluse; instead of leaving my home i
> spend 8 to 10 hours a day working in the dirt, smelling the earth.  i
> could have easily overspent on lovely plants to soothe me; to be a
> tribute to my bright light.
>
> and finally, i began visiting psychics.  i quickly realized they are
> many charlatans out there who would only be too glad to take money
> from a grieving person, so i set rules for that too.  i would not use
> a credit card, i would not take money from my home budget or from
> gifts for my sons to see a medium.  so far this has worked well for
> me.
>
> thanks for bringing up this subject, i haven't seen it addressed here
> yet.  after the tremendous, life-altering impact of a death i'm
> certain it would be only too easy to slip into a pattern of financial
> self-destruct.  none of us need that, we've been through too much
> already.
>
> best,
>
> donna
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