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On Aug 10, 7:00 am, Rhiannon <rhian...@mcom.com> wrote:
>  amandaF  wrote:
> > I want to see whether I can get some guidance on how to go
> > about healing some hurts (though I have completely accepted the facts)
> > I have accepted  that I think kind of hold me back in some ways in
> > life  I mean..instead of "why?", I want to be able to just view
it an
d
> > shrug it off like I would if I beak a plate or bowl _ I did break two
> > this week:) .
>
> The only things in life we have control over is ourselves, and what we
> choose to do with our lives.  Letting things get to you, like other
> people, will only hold you back from your life, and what you want from
> life.  Let go of whatever it is, and let it take it's natural course
> without you.  Learn from the experience, don't dwell on it.  .
>  Set  yourself free, with love, respect, and forgiveness for your mista
kes.
> Everything will change for the better when you do.

Thanks, I need to hear that.  Recently, I went through a stage of
anger at myself for not seeing things that that were damaging to me
which most people would have seen a lot earlier and gottoen myself
into beign abused tot he extent that i have been. But I also knew that
I wad trying to be like my father, who didn't speak too much rules
beyond teachig us not to lie. steal and not to waste food when we were
little but showed example of how to be to one's own family. Just as my
father was taken for granted (only by my mtohers' siblings; he was
well rescpected and loved by his neices and nephews and their
children), I was taken for granted and I have learned to forgive
myself for being such a fool.  But then, I understand that it was my
birth ordre and the age gap that left me uninformed and hence I made
those mistakes of pleasing the ones that were so cold-hearted, hoping
that they would start treating me like a sister.   I have stopped
finding excuse for their behavior as well.



Rhiannon
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