Re: OT--Empty nest!

Lauri wrote:
> I mentioned in another thread that my oldest son moved out a few days
> ago.  Since younger DS lives with his dad, this puts me in the very
> interesting position of living alone for the first time....ever!  I
> had spells of being alone when the boys were younger and we were doing
> shared custody, but even then I knew that there would be alternating
> weekends, "supper nights", and such.
>
> This is different.  DS still doesn't have all of his stuff moved out
> so I know he'll be back for that, and he'll definitely be back for
> dinner now and then, but that's different from knowing that he's going
> to be coming home every night after his shift is over.  I'm realizing
> that I found some comfort and sense of safety from knowing that I had
> a strapping  6'4" young man right upstairs if something scary should
> happen.  And even though I'm relieved that I won't have to feel
> obligated to make dinner anymore, that each evening the house will be
> as tidy (or not!) as I left it in the morning, and that I don't have
> to worry about things like sandwiches catching fire in the microwave
> anymore, it's still kind of ......well, I'm having to adjust.  I can't
> really say that it's a BAD thing because he is an adult and plenty
> capable of living on his own.
>
> I guess it's just a new phase and I need to figure out what I want to
> do with myself!
>
> Lauri in WA

Do you have someone to hang out with?

I loved living alone in that I like low levels of sensory input.  I
really like silence, but I do want to be with people sometimes.

When I was single and living alone I would never have been able to
withstand the constant sensory assault my 6 and 3 yr old wage.  Now it
seems like it would be painful to have it that quiet.
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